The Pros and Cons of Marrying a Ukrainian Woman

In 2020, it can seem like the secret about Ukrainian women is out! Even just 10 years ago, it was rather uncommon for Western men to travel to Ukraine for pleasure alone. Today, however, it could not be more different. In fact, in 2019, over 12,000 Ukrainian women married foreigners. I know, I know, you want to marry a Ukrainian woman too. Well, you’re in luck. Today, we’re discussing the pros and cons of marrying a Ukrainian woman.

Let’s get started!

Are You Sure You’ve Found The Right One?

The first and most important consideration you should have is ensuring that the lovely woman you’ve found is the right person for you.

Don’t forget, there are scams aplenty in Ukraine, specifically when it comes to marriage. Ukraine has an average salary that is less than $400 per month. Many women will do whatever it takes to find their ticket out of Ukraine.

The first, and most important question to ask, is where exactly did you find this woman? While online dating is extremely popular in Ukraine right now, we must not forget that most Ukrainian dating sites are completely illegitmate.

The one “diamond in the rough” type of site we have found is known as Ukraine Date. I hate to say it, but we’re immediately skeptical of all other dating sites aside from this one. Click here to check out our full review on the service.

So, you’ve done your due diligence and you’re sure the love of your life is the real deal. It’s time to talk about the many pros of marrying a Ukrainian woman!

Pro #1: Domestic Bliss – The Most Important of the Pros and Cons of Marrying a Ukrainian Woman.

My favorite thing about dating Ukrainian women is the fact that they feel obligated to take care of the household.

In the West, women believe it is not their job to keep the home clean. And, they definitely don’t ensure meals are prepared for their family. In Ukraine, however, it is an embarrassment if a woman allows her family home to get dirty. It is even worse is if her family goes hungry.

In fact, it’s not even as much of an issue of you having to force her to do these things. The vast majority of Ukrainian women see this as their duty, even if they have a full time job.

Some countries manage to produce women like this, such as Georgia. However, it goes without saying that Ukrainian women are a rare breed for this very reason.

Pro #2: Children: she wants them.

There’s an odd trend in the Western world of married couples choosing not to have children more and more.

The majority of Ukrainian girls, however, dream of the day they can be a mother. This is not to say that they want to rush into such a situation. But if you’re marrying a Ukrainian woman, you can effectively guarantee that children are in your future.

Better yet, raising children in Ukraine is considerably easier than in the West. Low cost of living has made it such that a small family can usually be taken care of entirely off of one Western salary. Additionally, Ukrainian women stress the importance of involving the extended family in the life of a child.

This means that there is almost always a relative who is willing to babysit should you and your love wish for some alone time. Or, even if you want a fun night out with the boys, a babysitter will almost always materialize. Men who are married to Ukrainian women seem to experience a level of freedom that isn’t common in most marriages.

This is largely due to the natural respect that Ukrainian women often have for their husbands.

Pro #3: Respect

Ukraine is a patriarchal society.

In a relationship with a Ukrainian woman, you are expected to command respect from her, and generally not tolerate bullshit.

This all sounds good in theory, but in order to really understand it, you must observe it in real life.

When I first came to Ukraine, many of my friends who were in their early 30’s had young children. Even still, they would accompany me on long nights out. We would often spend 6-8 hours bar-hopping until the early hours of the morning.

Fun times.

At 4AM, we would all retire. They would go home to their wives, who had been at home ensuring their children were looked after.

This completely amazed me. In the West, when a young couple has children, it is expected that the social life of the man dissolves. Even if he’s just sitting at home while his wife does everything, it is expected that he mosey around at home while she ensures their children are taken care of.

In Ukraine, it’s expected that a man continues to be a man, even with the birth of his children. As such, my friends could go out, drink, and gallivant around the town, all with their wives blessings, and probably with a nice late-night meal awaiting them when they arrived home.

This, my friends, is what true respect in a relationship looks like.

That being said, that’s not to say that there are no cons whtasoever with dating Ukrainian women. In fact, there are some risks you must be aware of as well.

Con #1: Take her away from her family at your own risk!

Many naive Western men seem convinced that they can simply drop into Ukraine, wave around their passport, and find a woman to bring back to the United States.

The truth is, it’s not that simple. At all.

In fact, if you plan to marry a Ukrainian women, the best course of action is to stay in Ukraine, or move to a nearby country.

In other words, taking a Ukrainian woman away from her family is a bad, bad idea.

Remember how we discussed the importance of extended family in the life of a Ukrainian couple? Well, by taking a Ukrainian woman away from her family, you’re effectively uprooting her from everything she knows.

As such, she no longer has the culture that made her into such a lovely woman keeping her grounded. Instead, you’re plunging her head first into Babylon itself. Positive influences from Mom, Dad, and Grandma are replaced by television, Westernized female friends and Kylie Jenner’s Instagram feed.

This is not to say it’s impossible to move your new Ukrainain beau back to the West with you. It is to say, however, that you’re inviting risk into your life by doing so.

I do not suggest that you do this. And, if you do, please proceed with caution.

Con #2: Culture Clash – You Must Be The Man – A Vitally Important Part of the Pros and Cons of Marrying a Ukrainian Woman!

In the above example, I discussed how a man married to a Ukrainian woman with a young child is still free to go out, do his thing, and not constantly be tied to the home.

This is normal in Ukraine. But, it certainly does not mean that your wife or girlfriend will never “challenge” your authority, so to speak.

It’s not just Ukrainian women who will do this. In fact, it’s all women on the face of the planet. We’ve all been in a situation where a woman will purposely challenge our authority, or protest against us doing something that we want.

What you must realize, however, is that while sometimes she may be fully in the right by doing so, there’s also a good chance she is simply testing you to see how you will react.

This is known as a compliance test, or more colloquially, a “shit test.”

Why would a woman do such a thing?

Women are complex creatures.

While men communicate in an overt, straight forward fashion, women tend to communicate more covertly. They subconsciously take into account a whole host of factors that ultimately influences her opinion of you.

For example, if your wife nags you about something trivial, and you simply acquiesce to her demands, you and communicating that you are weak and can’t deal with pressure.

After all, if you can’t handle a 45 kilogram blonde giving you a little lip, how will you ever deal with the real challenges the world will throw you?

As such, in relationships with Ukrainian women, men tend to fare best by stepping up, being the man, and simply saying “no” at times.

For Western men, this can be a hard concept to grasp, as they’ve been told their entire life they must be conscious of their partner’s needs.

Interestingly enough, however, most women don’t actually want someone who kneels over to their every demand. In fact, most women are far more attracted to the headstrong, determined man who chooses to do as he pleases, regardless of what his wife thinks.

These exchanges create sexual tension, and most of all, respect.

Personally, I find this to be a pro. Yet, for men who have grown up in a feminine environment, it may take some time to adjust to.

Con #3: You will probably have to learn Russian.

Ah yes, the infamous language barrier.

Fortunately for you, English is a widely spoken language in Ukraine.

I tend to find that at least 65% of girls in Ukraine know some amount of English. When you use a service like Ukraine Date, you’re looking at a group of women where that number is closer to 90%.

When it comes to marriage, however, you generally benefit from learning her native language. As a married man, you’re going to be interacting with her extended family a lot.

This can mean vodka-soaked lunches with Dad. Or, it can mean afternoon tea with Mom. Regardless, translating everything to English is going to seriously disrupt the conversational flow.

If you’re interested in marrying a Ukrainian woman, I’d say that you would be shooting yourself in the foot by not preparing yourself to learn the language of her family. Learning Russian or Ukrainian is no easy feat, even if you have a lovely teacher helping you out.

Conclusion – There Are Many Pros and Cons of Marrying a Ukrainian Woman

Marrying a Ukrainian women comes with a set of benefits and challenges that it pays to be aware of. Even still, I can confidently say that the vast majority of Western men who marry Ukrainian women set themselves up for a lifetime of happiness, as a functioning, traditional marriage with a beautiful woman is not nearly as easy to come by as it used to be!

For this reason, men will continue to flock to Ukraine to find wives for the foreseeable future.

And, to be honest, I suggest you do the same. Good luck out there!

-Expat Ukraine

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